Monday, September 04, 2006

About Me

WHO YOU ARE

You're adored, and for good reasons
You're a woman with a very balanced personality and lifestyle. You believe in making room in life to relax, think, and have fun. You refuse to settle long-term for a boring job or doing something just because it's expected of you. Love is the same way. You know what real love feels like and you'll accept no imitations! You pride yourself on not being the "typical woman." You're more honest and straightforward than most women. But just because you don't "wear your heart on your sleeve" doesn't mean you lack deep feelings. In fact, you're deeply committed to your loved ones and the causes you believe in. Women as truly balanced as you are very rare.

How unique is your type?
Your personality profile is similar to a number of women your age. Looking at over 10,000 women who have taken the test, about 33.6% (or 1 in 3 women) have very similar beliefs, values, and habits. Of course, the way these qualities are expressed in you is what makes you so unique.

What's dating all about to you?
Falling in love is a spiritual experience for you. A truly loving relationship helps bring meaning to your life. You try hard to make your date feel comfortable and have a good time. You're good at anticipating what other people need and giving it to them. But inside, you're usually on an emotional roller coaster. You don't want to reject nice men, but also take it very personally if you're the one rejected.

Although your compassion for men is a very attractive quality, your focus on him can get in the way of getting what you want and need. It's crucial to find a way to "go with the flow" in dating as you already do in other parts of your life.


Quirks men notice
Like all women, you have your strengths as well as your quirks and shortcomings. Ultimately, you want to find someone who will love and accept you "warts and all." Though you have lots of friends, it's important to have at least one person in your life who understands.

Some days when you're in a bad mood and can't hide it, co-workers or friends take it personally and think you're upset at them.

Do men like your type?
Notice that 75% of men are generally attracted to your personality type. 18% say they are VERY attracted. With the millions of people on Match.com, that translates into lots of potential matches.

WHO YOU'RE LOOKING FOR

He'll be an enigma
You're looking for a "real" man, who's down-to-earth and easygoing. He'll love to work with his hands and be able to fix almost anything. He's a private person and a little hard to get to know, especially emotionally. When he expresses his feelings, it's more likely through his actions and practical support than through words. He's a good man to turn to if you're having problems. He's very intuitive and brings a lot of "common sense." He has a shy and reserved exterior, but one-on-one you'll find he talks openly about himself and what's important to him. Behind his serious exterior is a very loyal and faithful potential partner.
Overall, it's important for you to be with someone who is almost always cheerful and has an optimistic outlook on life. The ideal person you're seeking shares a number of positive qualities with you, including:

No strong similarities were detected, which suggests that you may be more attracted to certain "opposite qualities." Please read the next sections to see if you may be seeking someone with different or opposite qualities to balance your own habits and style.

Number of men your type
Men with the exact type of personality you prefer are rare gems. Looking at over 10,000 men who have taken this test, only 5% (or 1 in 20 men) have the exact combination of similarities and contrasts in personality you find extremely appealing.
However, there's a larger group, 24% (or 1 in 4 men), who have most, but not all, of the qualities and habits you like. These subgroups are charted below.

About two-thirds (68%) of the men have at least some of the traits you find attractive.
But you'd have a negative reaction to 32% (or 1 in 3 men), who have some or many of the characteristics you clearly dislike.

Opposites attract
You're fascinated by men who see the world and do things a little differently than you. Part of you wants to be more like him, or at least have his unique style in your life. He could be good for you in many ways:

He can act as the "voice of reason" and objectivity when you're too swayed by emotions.
His quiet and gentle nature can have a calming effect on you and release you from having to be "on" all the time.
His sensible and pragmatic view on things can keep you "grounded" and prevent you from getting too caught up in somewhat unrealistic plans.


Quirks you can tolerate
The truth is that everyone is potentially "high maintenance." We all have our quirks and shortcomings. The key to long-term harmony is finding a man who can tolerate (or maybe even enjoy) your "quirks," or the little personal oddities that make you unique. You seem okay with several common quirks that might come along with your "ideal" man:

When he says something that comes across a little harsh or insensitive, you typically can overlook it because you know he didn't mean to hurt your feelings.
You can appreciate why he wants to make decisions based on his own past experiences, even though it seems pretty narrow and unimaginative to you sometimes.
You can honor his need to be quiet and have "alone time."

Downside of your "ideal"
In addition to his quirks, your "ideal" personality type may have other qualities that are more frustrating or challenging to deal with. Under stress, his quirks can become serious "flaws." But remember, these quirks are the "flip side of the coin," or the extreme end of qualities you otherwise find appealing. So, be prepared if:

Because he's such a rational thinker, he may seem cold and heartless at times, especially if the two of you are facing a decision that involves complex emotions or other people.
His hesitancy to go to parties or out with large groups could stand in the way of staying connected with your friends and doing some of your favorite activities.
Because he stays so focused on day-to-day life, he may question some of your plans and ideas for the future because they seem impractical and unrealistic given where you are right now.

Deal breakers
You seem ready to adapt to the good and frustrating qualities of the men you're looking for, but there are types of men you clearly do NOT like. Men's habits and attitudes you'd have a hard time putting up with include:

Men who are "touchy-feely" (need to discuss their emotions frequently, may cry at movies, etc.) and make major decisions, like whether to move, or which job to take, based on feelings rather than objective facts.

Trade-offs you'll face

Good Qualities Challenging Qualities
Cares deeply for a few very close friends. Has little desire to branch out and meet new people.
Uses "common sense" to make practical decisions. Can lack imagination and stick to traditional solutions even if you suggest newer and better options to explore.
Can step back and look objectively at a problem, which can be helpful to you in any crisis. Almost impossible to turn off analysis and thinking about what's happening.
Tries to be decisive, but still not rush into anything. How much attention is given to problems and how decisions get made seems unpredictable.

SEX

Romantic sex
Good sex is important to you, but it's only one of many ways you connect emotionally with your partner. Whether it's sexual or simply an affectionate touch, you give and receive pleasure easily.

Among women your age, your particular combination of sexual drive and interests is similar to about 1 in 8 women (13%).

Is he sexually compatible?
You're looking for someone just like you, who values the quality of sex over the quantity. You want someone who would never pressure you about sex.

What's ahead for you sexually?
A good sexual match plays a key role in your "ideal" relationship. Your profile points to a very promising sex life with your future partner. If you can bring your natural creativity and imagination to the bedroom, your sex life will never be boring. You know what it's like to emotionally connect with someone and truly make love (vs. just having sex). It will be hard (or impossible) to settle for anything less. Someone as loving and sensual as you should hold out for a man who shares your passions.

ATTRACTION SCIENCE

What is personality? Personality is the set of traits and characteristics that make each of us unique yet relatively stable and consistent over time.
People see and interpret the world differently.
They want different things.
They make decisions differently.
They get excited and energized by different situations.
They structure their careers, social life, and private time in different ways.


What does personality have to do with attraction?
The way in which people are similar or different in personality strongly affects their attraction to one another. Two people with similar values are more likely to become (and stay) friends or a couple, indeed part of compatibility is having "common ground." However, for many people, compatibility may also involve a balance between each other's quirks and differences.

Where did the test come from?
The test you just took is the most scientifically grounded and customized personality assessment on the Internet. It's a "smart" test because it can tailor specific questions to you based on your earlier choices so no one gets exactly the same questions. The content of the tests and the game-like way the choices were presented are the result of over 15 years of research by the scientists at weAttract.com, Inc.

For more details go to: weAttract.com

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